Give Yourself A Reality Check

Every now and then you need to give yourself a reality check. Ask yourself, “Am I doing the best that I can?” If the answer is ‘no’, push yourself to do better. We all have dreams and goals that we want to accomplish while we’re on this Earth, but no one will motivate you more than yourself. You have to become your own cheerleader, but also your own coach. This takes a lot of work on yourself but it’s worth it to be able to achieve that level of personal support.

Breaking patterns are difficult. You can notice results of a behavior that you do not like more readily than the behavior itself. Sometimes others can more see our patterns more clearly than we do, and other times we are so aware of the ebbs and flows of ourselves that we maintain total control in those departments.

Part of growing up is learning how to love yourself and with that taking care of yourself. I am still learning as this is a life-long process. But one thing I know at this stage is that things happen in their time. When you are eager it is the equivalent of ringing a doorbell 9 times in a row. That energy is felt. But when you are coming from a calm place and only ring that doorbell once or maybe twice, the universe is more likely to open a door.

I’ve changed. I’ve changed a lot over the years. I’ve allowed myself to grow with the flow of the universe instead of against it and I’ve found myself here. I am a work in progress as much as the next person but I know that I am on a journey to better myself. I have already. I realized the other day that when I thought I was at my most sensitive or educated state of mind I still had so much to learn. And I am fortunate to continue to be humbled by that learning process every single day.

I make sure to stay current on social issues as much as possible and balance not spending too much time online. I seek out connections and resources that will elevate my spirit instead of crushing my dreams. Toxicity comes up almost everywhere in our society and you have to learn where and how to weed that out of your life. It’s about setting boundaries, and the hardest person to set boundaries with is yourself.

If you held a mirror up to your life right now, what would you see in its reflection? Would you see something that you’re proud of or a construction zone like a Montreal road in the summer? Whatever you see, just know that it’s okay to be wherever you are right now. Try not to get caught up in the comparison trap of Instagram but look at your own evolution. Are you in a better place than you were 5 years ago? Have you made the improvements where you wanted to in your life? And if you haven’t, ask yourself “why not?”

If we don’t ask ourselves the tough questions, who will?

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