Selfs

After many wonderful discussions with the young people I encounter every day, I realized that there needs to be more attention paid to the ‘selfs’ (self-esteem, self-confidence, self-image, self-respect, etc.).

These are crucial in a young person’s development and are the base of who they choose to become. Kids aren’t born with ‘selfs’. They are learned. Children turn to those around them to develop, maintain and nourish these important traits. That’s why when they are stripped down, for whatever reason, it is so difficult building them back up again.

This is something I have worked on, and continue to work on, with my own children, as well as the children and youth I come in contact with every day. ‘I can’t’, is not a statement that can be excepted because there is always a way young people can in their own unique way. Whenever they doubt themselves when faced with a hurdle, I talk to them about what the hurdle is and how we can climb over it in the best way they can. I understand more than many what it’s like to have the ‘selfs’ pecked away at to the point you don’t hear the good things about yourself anymore as the bad things take over and become easier to believe. I never wanted any child to feel that way.

So, today, for inspiration, I’d like to share a beautiful little poem my youngest daughter wrote. She let me read it the other night before she went to bed. I have to tell you, I’m so proud and impressed that she has such deep insight of what really matters to developing the ‘selfs’. Bear in mind that my youngest is all of 10 years-old so for her to understand and appreciate these things should really make others stand up and take an inner inventory.

Be good to yourself…all ‘selfs’ and never give another person the power to take them away.

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Mirror, Mirror On the Wall…
It does not matter if I’m short or tall…
If I have skinny legs or my hips are wide…
It only matters who I am inside…
Blue eyes, brown eyes, black or green…
What makes me most beautiful cannot be seen…
When you look at me, don’t judge me by my parts…
The most beautiful thing about me is my heart.

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